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I appreciate that, and if you want to, then you can, but it doesn't seem a fair thing to require.
A major decision = something that would change or impact one or both of our lives.
[Did he ignore the part about what he wants that can't go into a contract? Yes. Because it's not relevant right now, in his mind. And related to the breakfast and dinner thing she hasn't addressed, so. He's not diving in farther at this point.]
A major decision = something that would change or impact one or both of our lives.
[Did he ignore the part about what he wants that can't go into a contract? Yes. Because it's not relevant right now, in his mind. And related to the breakfast and dinner thing she hasn't addressed, so. He's not diving in farther at this point.]
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[so they both have avoidance issues with topics, who knew?]
I guess we can discuss the bigger things later.
Breakfast and dinner seem good. I can't really cook, so I'll leave it to you.
[breakfast in bed is a thing, sebastian.]
But I'll try to be there.
I guess we can discuss the bigger things later.
Breakfast and dinner seem good. I can't really cook, so I'll leave it to you.
[breakfast in bed is a thing, sebastian.]
But I'll try to be there.
Bigger things?
I'm happy to cook, but I can also teach you.
[He is aware, but he's making no assumptions about his welcome in her bedroom, let alone her bed.]
Good.
I'm happy to cook, but I can also teach you.
[He is aware, but he's making no assumptions about his welcome in her bedroom, let alone her bed.]
Good.
I want to. I'm just not sure I want to put it in the contract, unless there are safeguards or whatever you want in there.
I asked around what other people had, just to see.
Something like: both the Dominant and the Submissive can meet their quota where they want to but if quota is not being met, they will meet it for each other.
However you want to make it sound official.
Something like: both the Dominant and the Submissive can meet their quota where they want to but if quota is not being met, they will meet it for each other.
However you want to make it sound official.
That seems like a reasonable provision, I guess. I just don't love the idea of it being some contractual obligation.
[Then, a minute later, after deciding that 1) that's way too vulnerable sounding and 2) he's an idiot.]
Nevermind. Forget I said anything. It's fine.
[Then, a minute later, after deciding that 1) that's way too vulnerable sounding and 2) he's an idiot.]
Nevermind. Forget I said anything. It's fine.
[what she reads is that he's not interested in being possibly being forced to have sex with her three times a month which wasn't the impression she'd gotten when they'd done it that one time. she'd thought he'd enjoyed himself, so she's trying not to be hurt, but. it's there.]
Whatever you want then.
Whatever you want then.
[The response is enough to cue him in that she's taken it the wrong way, so he tries to clarify, without saying too much.]
If I wanted to have sex with someone who's obligated to do so, then I'd pay a whore, which you are not. What I *want* is for you to come to my bed because you want to be there, because you want *me*, not because of some contract or quota. I may accept the role, but I don't actually love being seen as a necessary evil.
If you want it in the contract, to make it clear or whatever, then fine. But if you need me, or want me, for that, you don't need a contract to make sure you don't get hauled off to wherever.
If I wanted to have sex with someone who's obligated to do so, then I'd pay a whore, which you are not. What I *want* is for you to come to my bed because you want to be there, because you want *me*, not because of some contract or quota. I may accept the role, but I don't actually love being seen as a necessary evil.
If you want it in the contract, to make it clear or whatever, then fine. But if you need me, or want me, for that, you don't need a contract to make sure you don't get hauled off to wherever.
[okay, that's better than what she was thinking.]
I was just saying in case you didn't want to. This kind of saved us both.
But if you want to, then it's no big deal. We can do that and not worry about it.
[making quota since it'll just be happening.]
I was just saying in case you didn't want to. This kind of saved us both.
But if you want to, then it's no big deal. We can do that and not worry about it.
[making quota since it'll just be happening.]
You never have to worry if want to or not. If you want to, I'm in.
[And now he feels like he said too much.]
Not sure it does, really.
Not sure it does, really.
[He'd figured someone must be, since they hadn't been meeting their quotas together, but knowing it was some specific guy, with a name, who was her best friend still feels like a bit of a kick in the gut. He's an idiot, as always. Overall, he's glad she told him via text, though It gives him a chance to process, to not let her see his initial reaction, to respond after he gets a chance to write and rewrite his response a few times.]
I see. Thanks for telling me.
I see. Thanks for telling me.
[He wonders why she even wants to know, what it matters. He doubts it would make any difference, so why subject himself to, at best, her pity?]
Of course. Why wouldn't I be?
Of course. Why wouldn't I be?
[and for all those reasons, he doesn't want her to feel sorry for him, but she's already made it part of the contract that she gets to see her friends, so he sincerely doubts his being upset would change anything. So, why risk it?]
Nothing to apologize for.
I'll see an attorney first thing and let you know when it's ready. You can move in whenever you want.
Nothing to apologize for.
I'll see an attorney first thing and let you know when it's ready. You can move in whenever you want.
FYI, Sebastion Monroe is listed on a casualty list for The Creator. There is a list at work that names casualties for each side. Monroe is on the one for The Creator. Could mean that he’s hurt or worse. Thought you might want to know. [Christmas morning, there are two packages delivered to Charlie's door, brightly wrapped. In one is a case of crossbow bolts, shiny and new. In the other, an artist's kit, with a plethora of paints and brushes and other sundries. Bass figures she probably has no need of either, but bolts, paints and brushes all seem like things you can't have too many of, ultimately, and he hopes all of them are things she can enjoy using.
Attached is a note, simple and sincere, though it went through countless drafts to get to that format.]
Dear Charlie,
I'm sorry, for everything. I don't know if you can forgive me, and I have no right to ask, but I want you to know I'm working on things, trying to be better. I've been seeing a shrink a few times a week, and he's got me on these meds that are supposed to help. I can't tell if it's making much difference, but I'm still trying. Knowing there's a reason doesn't excuse anything I've done, but it gives me some hope I don't have to stay stuck in the same patterns.
All I want is for you to be happy. You deserve that more than anyone I know, and I'd do anything in my power to give you that. I hope that you've found that, now. Just know, if you ever need me, I'm here.
Merry Christmas, Charlie. Enjoy your presents and the life you're making here.
All my love,
Bass
Attached is a note, simple and sincere, though it went through countless drafts to get to that format.]
Dear Charlie,
I'm sorry, for everything. I don't know if you can forgive me, and I have no right to ask, but I want you to know I'm working on things, trying to be better. I've been seeing a shrink a few times a week, and he's got me on these meds that are supposed to help. I can't tell if it's making much difference, but I'm still trying. Knowing there's a reason doesn't excuse anything I've done, but it gives me some hope I don't have to stay stuck in the same patterns.
All I want is for you to be happy. You deserve that more than anyone I know, and I'd do anything in my power to give you that. I hope that you've found that, now. Just know, if you ever need me, I'm here.
Merry Christmas, Charlie. Enjoy your presents and the life you're making here.
All my love,
Bass
[with the loss of neal, charlie had managed to retrieve most of the art and supplies that he'd created before cable had subsequently disappeared, too, so the sight of more makes her heart ache. that bass thought to give them to her makes tears spring to her eyes and that's before she reads his note. after that, she's a mess.
it seems tactless to send a text, and she's yet to find a gift, so she resolves to do that and deliver it in person.]
it seems tactless to send a text, and she's yet to find a gift, so she resolves to do that and deliver it in person.]
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